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A New Point of View Smacked Me

I am at a stand still, a fork in the road.  (goodness I sound cliche)  So my situation has changed like so many real estate agents. Some just get out, some retire, some can’t afford it, some just give up and I am the “some” that is having a BABY — A Son to be precise —FOR REAL this is not some lame excuse to get out of real estate. I have every intention of returning. However, in the mean time my personal life — (my baby bump) has moved to the front burner.

I have had lengthy conversations with friends, other agents, my parents & Rusty (my husband). Making a major change to your business or closing up shop is tough in any economy is not a light decision. Many things have raced thru my mind that lead me to this decision.

1) Should I really spend the money if I am not going to be 110% focused on building my business?

2) Will what needs to be done to succeed in real estate conflict with the kind of parent I want or need to be?

2) How will I manage being a new mom, married and working?

3) How will I keep my promise to myself & my child to NOT USE DAYCARE?

4) Can we afford to do it all?

5) How can I show houses & be puking? Will I even fit behind the steering wheel?

6) How will I get back into the hunt? Will I fall behind?

Yes I sound a little panicked;What pregnant woman isn’t.

You must first understand, I have always worked since I was 14 years old.  In the beginning, I was a babysitter, dog walker & hospital volunteer; I advanced to campus mail room and graduated to restaurant manager. — Ultimately I  grew tired of working for someone else and became “self employed” a Broker, Realtor & Certified Negotiator.  If you are a Realtor you know how much hard work we put into every lead, closing, listing etc.  Its not easy to just stop and put it all on hold.

My mom says as a child I was never idle — I didn’t like to sleep and was always moving, always wanted to be doing something.  Real Estate fit me perfectly; it is definitely not the best choice for the IDLE.   ( &  I suspect motherhood is not either).

Being a stay home mom even for a couple months will be tough for me although I hope to enjoy it as well. It feels weird to consciously plan to “not go to work”. I wrote a list to turn off all my real estate responsibilities and began working thru it — till I called ActiveRain to shut off my blog and the nice man that answered said — “Why do you need to stop blogging…..?”

OMG He was right why do I need to stop blogging! There are things readers, future/past clients or other agents will still want to hear about.  Yes– A new point of view smacked me in the face.!! Taking time to  stop & think about it made me realize my voice had already begun to change.  I have new interests and new perspectives. My new point of view was emerging.  Reading and writing posts will allow me to keep up with real estate while still staying home with my son.   Yes, I won’t have time to list & help buyers, but I can still stay on top of it. I can still refer and blog.

Becoming a parent may be the best thing for my real estate career.

Jennifer Marks